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Oct. 17th, 2020 06:33 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
darchildreCurrently, I am reading The Invited by Jennifer McMahon, which is a fun and enjoyably ghost/haunted house story with the twist that the protagonist is in fact building the haunted house in question. However, it is also doing one of my least favorite horror things, which is:
Female Protagonist: I am the protagonist! I might be a SAHM mom or I might have a career but it's probably not in the sciences. I am likely interested in history to one degree or another.
Her Boyfriend/Husband: I definitely have a job in a STEM field. I encourage my wife's interests because they are endearing to me, but I do not really take them seriously.
Female Protagonist: I have had an experience wherein I encountered something supernatural! Within the universe of the story, this is absolutely true, but my boyfriend/husband did not witness the event.
Her Boyfriend/Husband: I absolutely do not believe in the supernatural (because I am a Rational Man in a STEM field) and thus do not believe that your experience happened the way you described. I will condescendingly try to convince you that it could not have happened.
Female Protagonist: I am continuing to have supernatural experiences!
Her Boyfriend/Husband: Despite mounting evidence, I still will not countenance the existence of anything supernatural and will instead berate you when you talk about your experiences in increasingly belittling ways.
A) I hate this dynamic so much and am not much appeased by the fact that it usually ends with the husband/boyfriend's death due to a supernatural occurrence and b) I have been trying to recall if I have ever seen the dynamic with the genders swapped. It would probably still be irritating, but I'd be interested in reading/watching a story with that dynamic, if only just the once.
Female Protagonist: I am the protagonist! I might be a SAHM mom or I might have a career but it's probably not in the sciences. I am likely interested in history to one degree or another.
Her Boyfriend/Husband: I definitely have a job in a STEM field. I encourage my wife's interests because they are endearing to me, but I do not really take them seriously.
Female Protagonist: I have had an experience wherein I encountered something supernatural! Within the universe of the story, this is absolutely true, but my boyfriend/husband did not witness the event.
Her Boyfriend/Husband: I absolutely do not believe in the supernatural (because I am a Rational Man in a STEM field) and thus do not believe that your experience happened the way you described. I will condescendingly try to convince you that it could not have happened.
Female Protagonist: I am continuing to have supernatural experiences!
Her Boyfriend/Husband: Despite mounting evidence, I still will not countenance the existence of anything supernatural and will instead berate you when you talk about your experiences in increasingly belittling ways.
A) I hate this dynamic so much and am not much appeased by the fact that it usually ends with the husband/boyfriend's death due to a supernatural occurrence and b) I have been trying to recall if I have ever seen the dynamic with the genders swapped. It would probably still be irritating, but I'd be interested in reading/watching a story with that dynamic, if only just the once.
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Date: 2020-10-18 11:54 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2020-10-18 09:48 pm (UTC)Although if she had a supportive female partner, that would also be awesome, I think it would be nice (and possibly beneficial for society) if men were just also expected to be supportive partners, rather than it being normal for them to belittle their partner over something just because it's not their personal field of expertise.
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Date: 2020-10-19 10:17 pm (UTC)