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Feb. 6th, 2021 08:30 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
darchildreJust once, I would like to send one of my carefully-designed-to-be-friendly-and-nonaccusatory "Hey, I noticed that you seem to have scheduled a thing that conflicts with one of our long-established standing arrangement get-together times. Were you planning on telling me that or were you just not going to show? Would you like to skip it this week or reschedule?" texts to my sister and not get a reply that boils down to "Oh, yeah, I totally forgot about that thing I do with you every week, sorry, let's just skip it."
I mean, what I'd really like is to get a text from her saying, "Hey, I'm going to be doing this thing and it conflicts with our thing - here are times when I can reschedule." But that will absolutely never happen.
ETA - Am I having a bad day where I keep obsessively dwelling on the fact that all the effort that goes into my relationships with my sisters is on my side? Is the fact that they only respond to my attempts at any kind of communication about 20% of the time really bothering me today? Did I note, once again, this evening that neither of them has even bothered to ask me how I am, let alone anything else about my life during any of the last four times I've spoken with them? Have I decided to be extremely petty and take at least a week off reaching out to them or answering any of their texts (unless it's an actual emergency)? Is this almost certain to actually make me feel worse because they probably won't even notice and certainly won't change their behavior if they do?
The answer to all these question is 'yes'.
I mean, what I'd really like is to get a text from her saying, "Hey, I'm going to be doing this thing and it conflicts with our thing - here are times when I can reschedule." But that will absolutely never happen.
ETA - Am I having a bad day where I keep obsessively dwelling on the fact that all the effort that goes into my relationships with my sisters is on my side? Is the fact that they only respond to my attempts at any kind of communication about 20% of the time really bothering me today? Did I note, once again, this evening that neither of them has even bothered to ask me how I am, let alone anything else about my life during any of the last four times I've spoken with them? Have I decided to be extremely petty and take at least a week off reaching out to them or answering any of their texts (unless it's an actual emergency)? Is this almost certain to actually make me feel worse because they probably won't even notice and certainly won't change their behavior if they do?
The answer to all these question is 'yes'.
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