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Mar. 12th, 2012 12:09 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
darchildreThings that are annoying:
So I'm having a conversation with a coworker and a patron who used to work for the library (and thus with whom I am slightly acquainted - moreso than other patrons). And in the course of conversations, I happen to mention that I'm extremely shy.
Former library employee says, "Oh, you're not shy."
And, okay, maybe I should be happy that I've gotten to the point where I can convincingly fake not being shy most of the time. And maybe it's one of those things where I say things and people think I'm putting myself down and thus rush to assure me that I'm not that thing.
But a) saying "I'm shy" is like saying "I have brown hair. I do have brown hair and I am shy. Being shy causes me somewhat more problems than having brown hair but the fact of both of them is pretty neutral. I don't need to be told that those facts aren't true when I know that they are.
b) Lady, you do not live in my head. I have lived here for 29 years and if I say that I'm shy, you can take it that I know what I'm talking about. You don't get to tell me how I feel.
I am having a marshwiggly day in general, so probably things are bugging me more than normal. Still, it was very irritating.
So I'm having a conversation with a coworker and a patron who used to work for the library (and thus with whom I am slightly acquainted - moreso than other patrons). And in the course of conversations, I happen to mention that I'm extremely shy.
Former library employee says, "Oh, you're not shy."
And, okay, maybe I should be happy that I've gotten to the point where I can convincingly fake not being shy most of the time. And maybe it's one of those things where I say things and people think I'm putting myself down and thus rush to assure me that I'm not that thing.
But a) saying "I'm shy" is like saying "I have brown hair. I do have brown hair and I am shy. Being shy causes me somewhat more problems than having brown hair but the fact of both of them is pretty neutral. I don't need to be told that those facts aren't true when I know that they are.
b) Lady, you do not live in my head. I have lived here for 29 years and if I say that I'm shy, you can take it that I know what I'm talking about. You don't get to tell me how I feel.
I am having a marshwiggly day in general, so probably things are bugging me more than normal. Still, it was very irritating.
