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[darchildre]

Good things about today:

- When I did meal prep this weekend, I divided my big pan full of stirfry into individual meal-sized portions, which meant that I just had to grab one out of the fridge this morning. It was very convenient.

- Driving to work today, there was the kind of fog that turns golden because the sun is shining through it and a flock of sparrows leapt into the sky in front of me while I drove down a long straight tree-lined hill.

- Choir has started for the Winter/Spring session. I took last session off and thus hadn't done any real singing since last April - I hadn't realized quite how much I'd missed singing choral music in a large group until rehearsal started. I feel wrong when there isn't any serious singing in my life.

I love singing with this group because I like the music we do and the people are generally very nice. The problem is that I've been singing with some of them for a while and they think that means that we have a closer acquaintanceship than we actually do. And they're touchy. I do not like being touched, except by a very small group of people which my fellow choir members are not in.

Also, a woman that I've never met before walked up without introducing herself, asked me rather aggressively about my Thor's hammer necklace, and then reached out to touch it. OH MY GOD DON'T DO THAT.

Caveats aside, this session, our repetoire is half songs about stars (several of them settings of poems by Sarah Teasdale) and half John Rutter's Requiem, so it's basically a concert designed to appeal to me.

Comments

[schneefink]

Wow, just reaching out to touch your necklace is so rude o.o

[tricksters_queen]

I have a couple of necklaces that tend to catch people's eye in this manner, but they usually seem to catch themselves before actually reaching out, and will ask me about it instead (at which point, I may hold it out so that they can look at it without touching it.)

It is so weird that people think they can touch other people, or other people's clothing/jewelry items. I see this a lot with pregnant people, too, where people will just start touching their stomachs without asking, and getting defensive and weird if the pregnant person moves away/asks them to stop.

People are bizarre. I'm sorry that they invade your personal space like that; it's always awkward.

[darchildre]

Yeah - I don't mind talking about my Hammer, as I realize that many people may not have seen one before or know what one is. But you don't get to just touch it without even saying anything first. (Ideally, you don't get to touch it at all.)

I realize that I am something of an extreme outlier when it comes to casual touch - I have worked with one of my coworkers for going on 14 years now, we're pretty good friends, I think I have touched her exactly once in all that time. Still, people who are outliers the other way just surprise the hell out of me. It always seems much easier to err on the side "Probably I shouldn't touch this person" than the opposite.