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Mar. 28th, 2023 09:27 amI really don't hate having conversations about knitting generally, when I knit in public. I like hearing about people's efforts to learn how to knit, or their relatives who knit, or whatever*. There are a couple people at choir, however, who keep having the same vaguely condescending conversation with me about my knitting every week - "Oh, you're knitting again, huh? Good for you." - and never retain anything I've told them before, so they ask the same questions every week as well**. That, I don't enjoy at all. I wasn't in the mood for it last night so I left my knitting in my bag and read a book during breaks instead.
It didn't work. Instead, two of the dudes who have that same conversation with me about knitting every week commented on the fact that I wasn't knitting. So did a third dude who has never before spoken to me. All three of them did that I'm-teasing-you-by-pretending-to-scold-you thing: "No knitting tonight?" "Where's your knitting?" So I didn't even escape their vague condescension! The third dude doesn't even sit anywhere near me - he was walking past on a break to talk to someone else and that is how he decided to start his first-ever conversation with me.
I may have been a little short with him in reply, so I imagine we're not going to have a second conversation. I'm having trouble feeling bad about it.
I am a whole entire person! Sometimes, I do things that are not knitting! You could talk to me about them if you want! Or, here's a shocking idea - you could just not talk to me. It's not required. I certainly don't encourage it. I just sit in my chair at breaks, quietly doing my own thing, not initiating conversation with anyone.
I don't understand why people want to start these extremely boring conversations they clearly don't actually care about when I've given no indication that I'm at all interested in talking to them.
*I don't like when people tell me extremely weird personal information, but I don't think the knitting causes that - I think I put out an "I'm quiet, sympathetic, and non-judgmental" field.
**I've told one of them that I'm knitting socks every rehearsal for the past 6 weeks. I've gone so far as to tell him that he will likely only ever see me knitting socks, as that's really the only project I take out of the house. He continues to ask every rehearsal.
It didn't work. Instead, two of the dudes who have that same conversation with me about knitting every week commented on the fact that I wasn't knitting. So did a third dude who has never before spoken to me. All three of them did that I'm-teasing-you-by-pretending-to-scold-you thing: "No knitting tonight?" "Where's your knitting?" So I didn't even escape their vague condescension! The third dude doesn't even sit anywhere near me - he was walking past on a break to talk to someone else and that is how he decided to start his first-ever conversation with me.
I may have been a little short with him in reply, so I imagine we're not going to have a second conversation. I'm having trouble feeling bad about it.
I am a whole entire person! Sometimes, I do things that are not knitting! You could talk to me about them if you want! Or, here's a shocking idea - you could just not talk to me. It's not required. I certainly don't encourage it. I just sit in my chair at breaks, quietly doing my own thing, not initiating conversation with anyone.
I don't understand why people want to start these extremely boring conversations they clearly don't actually care about when I've given no indication that I'm at all interested in talking to them.
*I don't like when people tell me extremely weird personal information, but I don't think the knitting causes that - I think I put out an "I'm quiet, sympathetic, and non-judgmental" field.
**I've told one of them that I'm knitting socks every rehearsal for the past 6 weeks. I've gone so far as to tell him that he will likely only ever see me knitting socks, as that's really the only project I take out of the house. He continues to ask every rehearsal.
