darchildre: The lady Melisandre with a candle, looking particularly intense. (melisandre will set you on fire)
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The library patron who calls me all the pet names came in today, and called me "Sweetiepie" and "Lovey" and "Bunny". And, y'know, I hate that. So, I figured that I've put up with that for 10 years and, other than that, we have a pretty amicable relationship, so in the course of conversation when she said "Bunny," I said, "Please don't call me that."

And she blinked at me and said, "Why don't you like being called that?" So I told her that I don't really like being called pet names. And she said, "Why not? I mean, do you have no inherent sense of self-worth?"

Do you have no inherent sense of self-worth. That is a thing that she actually asked me, actually said to my face.

So, y'know what? Fuck you, lady. I do indeed have an inherent sense of self-worth, because that's what makes me not want to be called demeaning pet names by someone who can't be bothered to use my fucking real name after knowing it for ten fucking years. I also have an inherent sense of courtesy and respect for other people that makes me a) address people respectfully, b) not argue with people when they ask me not to do something, c) not do terrible shit like accusing people of having a lack of self-worth, and d) talk to you respectfully even after you said that shit to me. As well as a sense of restraint that leads me to not punch you in the face.

You want to know the real reason I don't want you to call me pet names? Because you don't know me, and I don't like you. So back the fuck off.

I am so angry about this. Thank the gods I'm off tomorrow and don't have to do any kind of bullshit customer service anything.

Date: 2015-09-19 01:24 am (UTC)
inkstone: Alex Benedetto from the @Bunch issue containing Chapter 42 (Default)
From: [personal profile] inkstone
What the fuck.

Date: 2015-09-19 03:40 am (UTC)
toft: graphic design for the moon europa (Default)
From: [personal profile] toft
WOW. Wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwww. I cannot believe she said that to you. That is so unbelievably rude, and I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.

Date: 2015-09-19 01:54 pm (UTC)
silveradept: A dragon librarian, wearing a floral print shirt and pince-nez glasses, carrying a book in the left paw. Red and white. (Dragon Librarian)
From: [personal profile] silveradept
Ah, library users are the greatest.

I don't get how refusing to be referred to by a diminutive means you lack self-worth, unless it's one of those situations where they clearly meant it as a compliment, and you saying stop must mean that you don't feel worthy of a compliment, but that they're being obnoxious, because how can you do bad thing by being complimentary...

...blech.

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